Are You a Masochist?

Why do we allow those we love or care for, to continuously hurt us? Are we there waiting for change? Or some sort of Masochist?

Masochist: definition:

1-The tendency to find pleasure in self-denial, submissiveness, etc.

2-Gratification gained from pain, deprivation, degradation, etc.,inflicted or imposed on oneself, either as a result of one'sown actions or the actions of others, especially the tendency to seek this form of gratification.

Within any type of relationship, whether it be family, friends or the most common a LOVE interest, we often find ourselves hurting from something we can simply walk away from.

When it comes to relationships do you look for excuses as to why they behave a certain way, so instead try to stick around, because you ‘understand’ ? That doesn’t sound healthy now, does it? Although I write about love, relationships, sex and lifestyle, I’ve never actually written about hurt, due to the reason I try to avoid writing about the obvious ‘If he mistreats you, leave’. It should really be common sense, but then common sense was never common and shit is easier said than done.

It’s almost like self harm, but not physically only emotionally, self inflicted pain and resuming to it, when it can be easily stopped, or can it? Can being a masochist within a relationship be a sign of weakness, blindness or even insecurity?

As a writer, it’s very hard for me to not contradict what it is I talk about about in articles. E.g. Settling for less, knowing your worth, not being that crazy ex-girlfriend etc. If you ever do find yourself in this position and question it, you might find yourself being a possible masochist, allowing someone to devalue what your worth means losing your respect, though you’ve be burnt several times. Who runs back into a burning house?