Sorry, I don’t date black men. . .re-cap

An old post from last year January came to my attention called 'Sorry, I don't date black men'. This post simply spoke about the problems in today's society about black men dating outside their race. Now not to bash black men at ALL because as a young black woman, all I've ever adored and dated was BLACK MEN, but it's just finding the right one that seems to be a headache for all black girls.

Here were the comments, written on the post a while back.

'My reason for not dating black men is because of how I've always been treated by them! I'm not trying to put white mean on a pedalstool, but wheras a white man will hold a door open for me, a black man see's me but still lets it go on me so hard he might as well slam it in my face! I've generally been treated bad by them, even in my own family, and I've seen too many friends end up hurt, and as single mothers, even when they're innocent. So it's not always things like 'asking out etiquette' thats gives some of us ladies blackmanaphobic! They always use the same kind of excuses like we're loud, fat, hair weave etc, but I'm the complete opposite of all that, but we all know they're excuses only. Black men give me evil looks all the time, and the comments I hear them talking put me off too...usually awful language about black women. The ones I come across seem to have a deep hatred to us, even the younger ones. I'm 29 and have never dated a black man. I would have done a time ago, but it's clear to me that they aint interested! They don't even acknowledge us to find out whether we're attractive and with a nice personality etc. Our skin is black and so that's it, they're not interested. They prefer white girls or at the best mixed-race girls so I leave them be. At one point I always secretly hoped that I'd have my own full black family one day, but that hasn't materialised and never will now obviously. And sorry, but I blame that on black men, who didn't even want to be within a certain radius of me, simply for being a black female, and not to be big-headed, but I'm usually considered fairly attractive and smell nice, honest! I won't complain though, I have two beautiful children by my husband who I love to bits even if we're not the full black family I imagined when growing up. Anyway, better stop the essay now!'-

-Anonymous

Here was the second comment.

'I have simply given up on the black man. Not all black men are useless, but most of them are, especially the older ones (40+). They have issues with marrying a good woman, but have no issues with having sex outside of marriage. They don't marry because they are never satisfied with what they have--they are always looking for what they think is "better"; therefore, marriage to a woman gets in the way. They make excuses for not being in a relationship at all--children, parents, school, changing jobs etc. I have often wondered why they can't do those things and have a relationship with a good woman. They have no concept of "partnership". The cliche', "two incomes are better than one" means nothing to them. You see, to have a good woman partner with them in a mutually loving relationship requires commitment, communication, and love. They can't do it because, again, they are never satisfied. I have a plaque that says "happiness is not having what you want, but wanting what you have." When a small problem or issue evolves, they ignore it (which means they ignore you)or they try to turn in around on you which ultimately leads to frustration on the woman's part because we are thinking "how did it get to this?" They do just the minimum once they get you. They do not handle conflict in a mature, responsible manner; instead, they run away from issues. It doesn't mean these are "bad" men; they are just sorry men who don't take the time to learn how to treat a black woman and how to love. They are crazy about their daughters, but they will treat a good woman like she is nothing. They love the pretentious woman or the woman who doesn't mind the fact that he is seeing someone. They just simply can't appreciate a good, faithful, submissive woman. I am a good black woman and I have only dated black men--this is how I know.'

-Anonymous.

Both comments very different, but instead of writing my opinion, I truly want to know what black men think about this. Why are their more single mothers, instead of happily married women? Are black men also more interested in dating outside their own race and why?